Reflecting on my 20s now that I am 30.

Ladies and gents I am finally 30, the big 3-0.  Lots of people have told me that you would view life differently and I used to laugh but it’s for real.  You seriously start viewing your life differently-your friends/work/dreams/goals.  Thursday June 23rd I had a very chill day-salon and dinner at Benihana’s due to the fact my 30th birthday trip to New Orleans was scheduled for Sunday (that blog is coming).  Friday morning at work I was looking at my computer monitor like, “Is this it?!”

Don’t get me wrong I love my job and the perks that comes with it but if it were up to me I would be traveling all over the world with my family writing our adventures.  As a child I always said I wanted to be a teacher, that changed when I discovered you could make a career in traveling, writing about travel to be more exact thanx to Travel and Leisure.  I will admit I haven’t graduated from college and that is partly to school debt and yes procrastination on my part but I’ve told myself that by the time I am 35 I need to have my AA and BA.  Sad to write that I am 4 credits shy of getting my AA in Hospitality and Tourism Management.  From there I want my BA with a minor in Writing.  I am also looking into the possibility of getting my Teacher Certification for Early Childhood.  With this being said-find your passion and pursue it.  Life is too short to be doing what your heart does not desire.

I’ve always said your 20s are the years of getting to know yourself and what you want out of life for that by the time you are 30 you know what you want and you are going full throttle to get it.  In my 20s I was not doing the crazy party life nor the crazy college stories you are probably used to hearing/reading.  I was living in Miami by myself working and going to school full-time.  It taught me responsibility and that I am perfectly ok with loneliness-I don’t need to have somebody there just to not feel alone.  I also learned I do too much for people and in the end it’s never appreciated.  In my 20s in regards to men I was a late bloomer, preferring my books over boys and even though I had lost a lot of weight and was in my lowest weight I still didn’t feel comfortable in my body to have it be appreciated by somebody else.  After being in my relationships and actually feeling unappreciated I’ve finally found that one person that accepts me-good and bad-and loves my Sammy as his own.  My 20s taught me what I definitely did not want in a relationship and to feel very appreciated in a relationship.  To court, say thank-you, make time for each other, play as kids, and most importantly have that someone that will say yes to all your craziness = match made in heaven 🙂 !

My friend Lucy told me the other day that once you turn 30 you’ll know the difference between friends and acquaintance.  I can say I know many people because I am very friendly in that nature but I can literally count my friends aka my ride or die with one hand and that is all I really need.  You will also notice that your friendships will change once you become a mom.  Your perception of life changes and as you grow your relationships either grow or they start heading in a different direction and that is ok.

Looking back at my 20s I see-night out until the early morning, driving from NJ back to MIA in a day to restart my life again, working in the hospitality/tourism industry, love, heartbreak, disappointments, anger, frustration, girl trips, new chapters.  Now I see a strong woman who has realized she needs to put her well being first to continue being the loving somewhat patient mother Sammy needs lol.  Here’s to 30s hopefully full of more travel, happiness, health, and peace of mind 🙂 .

I am blessed to see another year and everyday I am grateful to be here.  Thank-you Jesus and thank-you all for your well wishes.  I saw each and everyone of them on my Instagram/Facebook account.

Anything you want to say about your 30s, let me know!

Monday, June 23, 1986 at 6pm.
Monday, June 23, 1986 at 6pm.
Happy Birthday to Me!
Happy Birthday to Me!

 

xoxo

 

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